Going to Court
If you are finding it difficult to agree the arrangements for your child/ren, mediation or other means of alternative dispute resolution are available to you. Further information can be found in the ALTERNATIVE DISPUTE RESOLUTION page.
If you are thinking about applying to the court, you will normally be required to attend a Mediation Information and Assessment Meeting (MIAM) first. Further information can be found in the Alternative Dispute Resolution (mediation) page.
Recent changes to the law have now provided a broader definition of “non-court dispute resolution” which encompass various methods such as mediation, arbitration, evaluation by a neutral third party (such as a private dispute resolution process), and collaborative law (see the Alternative Dispute Resolution pages). This recent updated change in the law highlights the need and obligation to explore other methods of dispute resolution other than through court application.
Additionally, even if a court application has been made, there is an ongoing obligation for parties to consider non-court dispute resolution throughout to look at alternative means of concluding the issues in the case. The court can also adjourn an application to facilitate alternative dispute resolution where “timetabling of proceedings allows sufficient time for these steps to be taken” without explicit agreement from the parties.
If you find that you are still unable to agree the arrangements for your child/ren, you may decide to apply to the Family Court which can decide how they spend time with their parents and other family members, and to decide particular issues such as which school they should attend, among many other things. The law is governed by the Children Act 1989.
Please see the attached videos to provide more information about what to expect when going to court.
Preparing for the First Hearing Dispute Resolution
Information and guidance as to what will happen once you have made your application to court and preparing for the first hearing.
Guidance for family carers
Information for family carers applying to court for a private family order.
Participation directions for vulnerable parties
Information and guidance for vulnerable parties.
Support after proceedings have concluded
Information and advice in making final orders work.
Additional helpful guidance can be found form (CB1), which can be downloaded here
Going to court can be difficult for all of the family, especially for your child/ren.
Please see attached information from Cafcass and the Family Justice Young People’s Board via the following video and link regarding what can be expected for children in the Family Court. An additional video produced by Cafcass ‘My parents live apart and can’t agree arrangements for me’ is also informative.
The most common type of order applied for is a Child Arrangements Order under section 8 of the Children Act 1989. This sets out where the children live and how they spend time with each of their parents. Grandparents and other family members can also apply for a Child Arrangements Order, but they will usually need the court’s permission to make an application. A Child Arrangements Order was until recently referred to as “residence” and/or “contact” orders.
The procedure to be followed in such cases, which are those cases involving applications, is called the Child Arrangements Programme. Click here for a helpful flowchart of the relevant parts of the procedure. To view a full version of the programme (often referred to as the “CAP”) click here.
When the Family Court is deciding what orders to make in relation to the children, it will always have the welfare of the children as its top priority. You may hear people referring to the “welfare checklist”. This is a list of factors which are set out in section 1 of the Children Act 1989 which the court always thinks about when making arrangements for children:
(1) When a court determines any question with respect to—
(a) the upbringing of a child; or
(b) the administration of a child’s property or the application of any income arising from it, the child’s welfare shall be the court’s paramount consideration.
(2) In any proceedings in which any question with respect to the upbringing of a child arises, the court shall have regard to the general principle that any delay in determining the question is likely to prejudice the welfare of the child.
(3) In the circumstances mentioned in subsection (4), a court shall have regard in particular to—
(a) the ascertainable wishes and feelings of the child concerned (considered in the light of his age and understanding);
(b) his physical, emotional and educational needs;
(c) the likely effect on him of any change in his circumstances;
(d) his age, sex, background and any characteristics of his which the court considers relevant;
(e) any harm which he has suffered or is at risk of suffering;
(f) how capable each of his parents, and any other person in relation to whom the court considers the question to be relevant, is of meeting his needs;
(g) the range of powers available to the court under this Act in the proceedings in question.
(4) The circumstances are that—
(a) the court is considering whether to make, vary or discharge a section 8 order, and the making, variation or discharge of the order is opposed by any party to the proceedings; or
(b) the court is considering whether to make, vary or discharge [F1a special guardianship order or] an order under Part IV.
(5) Where a court is considering whether or not to make one or more orders under this Act with respect to a child, it shall not make the order or any of the orders unless it considers that doing so would be better for the child than making no order at all.
If an application is made to the Family Court in relation to your child, you are likely to be contacted by Cafcass. Further information can be found on the Cafcass website.
If your case involves domestic violence (see the Domestic Abuse pages, above), the Family Court will need to decide how to address that issue to ensure that the children’s best interests are met. You may find it helpful to read the relevant procedural guidelines which the court will take into account, which can be downloaded here.

There is a guide from the Court Service (HMCTS) which you should read if you are thinking of making an application to court click here to see the link to CB7 HMCTS page. This website includes information about special measures in court that can help people who feel particularly vulnerable through the court process.
Most people are not eligible for legal aid for Family Court applications. If you want to know more about your eligibility for legal aid then go to https://www.gov.uk/legal-aid/eligibility
If you want to find a solicitor who can talk to you about whether you are eligible for legal aid further details of solicitors with a legal aid contract in England and Wales a locality search can be accessed via https://find-legal-advice.justice.gov.uk
There are also details of legal services that can be provided via the national resources page.
If you are a litigant in person there are a number of resources that may assist you to understand what to expect when coming to court – please see the national resources page but also the following videos:
Family Court without a lawyer – video 1 of 3
Family Court without a lawyer – video 2 of 3
Family Court without a lawyer – video 3 of 3
How to represent yourself in family court in England and Wales
Before you apply to court
Child focused decision-making before you apply to court.
Alternative ways of resolving family disputes
Information about Mediation Information and Assessment meetings (MIAMS) and mediation.
Planning Together for Children
Information about the parenting support programme offered by Cafcass to assist parents transition to co-parenting post separation.